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Thursday, November 7, 2013

Managing My Stress

The last 4 weeks have been so stressful. Most of you know that my 12 year old is high functioning Autistic (his official Dx is PDD vs. Asperger's with generalized Anxiety and ADHD....it's a mouthful lol).

4 weeks ago the school told me after a violent meltdown that he'd have to go into the home bound program to keep him from being expelled so they would have a chance to get services into place and for me to tweak things on my end.

I wasn't ready for that decision & I left so very frustrated and angry about the whole situation.  We moved to a different area to get him out of the other school system we were at and I felt like they were punishing me and my son.

If you noticed I stopped posting pictures of my workouts for a little while, it's because I stopped doing them. I was wallowing in self pity for 2 weeks, I had to depend on my husband to come home so I could go running and of course it never worked out the way I wanted it to.  

The good news?  I managed to not emotionally eat this time and I pulled myself out of the workout pity party :)

Which is awesome.....I let my emotional eating get the best of me when we were buying this house in May and when I let the family drama get to me.  All of the stuff resulted in a regain that I'm still fighting to get back off.

How did I stop it this time?  Oh my gosh, it's so much mental work involved & even then some times you slip.  I just kept on pushing.

Tips I follow:

  • I let myself get mad or sad or frustrated.
  • If I can't change my situation, I change my attitude about it.
  • Know that your goals can stay the same but finding another way doesn't mean you failed, it just means you have to be creative. (My half marathon training is still on going, I just have to cross train more and get extra miles on the weekend.)
  • Write out your feelings or talk to someone you trust. 
  • Keep the junk out of your house and minimize grocery store trips (I know when I'm stressed I'm more apt to head to the grocery store or stop at a drug store and grab candy or crap to eat in the car)
  • Be kind to yourself.  Don't beat yourself up if you do wind up buying crap at the store and eating it.  
  • You need to deal with what is really bothering you.  Stress eating is just an indicator of other problems.
Yeah......um no


Your strength is all in your mind.  Remember that.


(Today I did get great news....my son will be going back to school on Monday and they have plans in place, including a Paraprofessional to help him.  Yeay!)

  



6 comments:

  1. That's wonderful. You are right on, as usual. I love that you share your ups and downs. We all have them and most of us need to realize it's okay not to be perfect. Somewhere in the back of our minds we tend to hold ourselves to unattainable standards. Life is messy ~ settle in and enjoy the process.

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  2. I am really enjoying your blog. I am also a stress eater. I have a 5 year old daughter whom I love so much, we started trying for a second child about 4 years ago and just this past year started treatments. Those alone make my journey that much more difficult but so far in the past year 8 of my friends have gotten pregnant. I used to struggle with this, forcing myself to be happy and give congrats telling myself I had no right to be upset. then i would go home and eat a cheesecake. The last two announcements I allowed myself to be upset ( they were announced on line) I cried and felt sorry for myself but I didn't eat. After my pity party I was able to actually be very happy for my friends. Reading your blog gives me new hope at getting my body healthy and in shape. Thank you for taking the time to write it and share with all of us.

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  3. I am a licensed mental health therapist and have many children on my case load whose parents are experiencing many of the same stressors you have mentioned above. Just know that you are not alone and continue to keep fighting for your son and getting your message out to others about your experience you will be surprised who you have helped by writing this post.

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  4. Tanee,
    I am so happy I happened upon your blog last night. I also have a 12 year old son with the same exact diagnosis. We had such a challenging school year last year that it really knocked me down. I have been struggling with getting my mind in the right place to take better care of myself & lose all of the extra weight that I have put on over the last few years. Knowing that you are fighting similar challenges personally & was able to change your life & get fit is incredibly inspiring. I will be back to read through your blog. I really can't believe I found someone out there who gets it--the stress of raising a child with these challenges and someone who was able to take care of herself. We all know we are better able to care for those around us when we are taking better care of ourself (yet I have been so STUCK.)
    Anyway, not to be too weird, but I feel like my finding your blog and your story was something I needed.

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  5. I find you so inspirational. I've yoyo'ed for years. I lost all my weight using Weight Watchers, which took 3 years, then quit and put it all back on. I'm married to a man who struggles with severe bipolar issues, awaiting back surgery and we have 4 children, 2 also on the autism spectrum. I also work full time managing FOUR bookstores. Naturally, I put myself on the backburner every single time, but I'm learning this helps NO ONE. Thank you for such an informative blog. I look forward to your inspiring story every single day.

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  6. I find you so inspirational. I've yoyo'ed for years. I lost all my weight using Weight Watchers, which took 3 years, then quit and put it all back on. I'm married to a man who struggles with severe bipolar issues, awaiting back surgery and we have 4 children, 2 also on the autism spectrum. I also work full time managing FOUR bookstores. Naturally, I put myself on the backburner every single time, but I'm learning this helps NO ONE. Thank you for such an informative blog. I look forward to your inspiring story every single day.

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