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Wednesday, January 23, 2013

Rolling with the changes

Yesterday my oldest, who is 11 & has a diagnosis of Asperger's vs. PDD-NOS (high functioning Autism), had a major meltdown at school. When I got there he was being wrestled down by a sheriff deputy.

When I turned the corner and saw that my heart dropped. I had to do something to end this. The school hasn't been listening at all to what I think he needed. No matter the complaints I filed, lawyers I've talked to, IEP in place, etc.

I just want him to be a functioning member of society. Is that too much to ask?? He is almost as tall as I am & I know if I don't help him learn to cope with the things that set him off there is no telling what will happen.....he doesn't know how to get along socially at all except with younger kids...the kids he goes to school with know exactly how to get a reaction out of him & well to me they freaking suck ass.

Some times when dealing with my son I feel like I'm drowning....If I emotionally eat any time now it's usually because of the huge amount of stress handling his meltdowns can be.

I ultimately decided to pull him out to homeschool for the rest of this year and get everything together to put him in a totally different school system after we move. Which we are putting our house up for sale in March. I'm not really expecting to sell it until May so the kids will be out of school then.

I'm not a homeschooling type of person. I love all 3 of my children dearly but I love my alone time while they are at school.

Selfish? Sure. I don't have the patience though.

So now I'm stressed, totally stressed. I have my 11 year old home & he thinks it's vacation, then cops an attitude when I print off some worksheets for him to do later in car line. Then I have my other two complaining "Why do we have to go to school when Nick gets to stay home?".

It is enough to make me want to eat everything in the house! Everything is healthy there but you can eat healthy and still gain weight if you eat too much of it lol

So I've been cleaning my house like a mad woman to keep busy.

It will look amazing when we put it up for sale....which is a total bonus ;)

I know I have everyone here on my blog & my fan page to support me when I need it....which makes me feel a lot better <3

We'll see how this goes. Hopefully I can adjust & roll with it like everything else!

9 comments:

  1. Oh wow. I can't even imagine what you are going through. It's hard to get people to recognize that mom knows best. Especially with a child with special needs. I'm sure they all think they know what's better for your child. I hope they will start listening.

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  2. Tanee, I think you have made a very wise decision. I'm not sure of the laws in LA, but in AR if a school disregards an IEP, they are in big trouble. I'm sure at times they feel that there is not alternative, but that is why the IEP is in place. I'm glad you will be moving to another district where hopefully you can get some support and your son can get the love and attention that all children deserve. In regards to your journey, I have been so motivated by everything you put on your fb and your blogs. I am amazed by how far you have come and I know you will accomplish big things. This is just another "road detour", don't let it become a "road block". It is obvious you are a strong woman. You will be in my every prayer, thanks for being "real" .... love you for it.

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  3. I have a special needs child to. Luckily, I live where we have a great school system. I love my son, but I don't know if I would have the patience to teach him. I really admire you for doing this for your child. If you ever need to talk to someone, feel free to message me chrisann1975@yahoo.com. Good luck!

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  4. I totally understand where you are coming from. My daughter has Tourettes Syndrome, OCD and rages and have a 4 year old son also. I feel like I am drowning alot too. I always reach for food and pop when I am stressed out and had lost weight last year and gained it all back. I am started over this week and you inspired me to try low carb, and I have lost 4 lbs already. I would not want to homeschool my daughter because I need my adult time at work. I admire you for what you are doing for your son. Best wishes to you!

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  5. I have a 7 year old that I pulled out this year to homeschool as well. He has a similar diagnosis as your son. It's hard but we're finding that the flexibility of homeschooling fits him well. If he starts in about doing school... we do chores!

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  6. Oh my goodness.. You are the epitome of whatever does not kill you makes you stronger..... May God Bless and Keep you......

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  7. Gentle teaching works for me! Look up the principles and role with it! I am facsinated by autism spectrum! I have a blog about my work in the feild and ideas for other caregivers. Reach out to the community don't give up! Find some quality staff ( they are few and far between but really help) Detroit acceptance is my blog name.... I have some great families you could learn a lot from! But it would really help to find some good connections in your community to learn about options by you. The support is there! You are not alone!

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  8. I just joined your DietBet group and popped over here to say hi (hi!), but then I read that you've decided to homeschool. So now I also want to give a shout out of support to you because I too homeschool and I know how frustrating, exhausting, emotionally draining, time-consuming, and suffocating it can be. It's also hugely rewarding, so hang in there!

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